Domestic/Family Violence

Domestic Violence or Family Violence or Intimate Partner Violence  is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.

This can happen among a variety of family members as well. This type of violence does not discriminate based on age, sex, religion, gender or sexual orientation. It can take the form of physical/emotional/psychological/sexual/economic abuse. There is an underlying power and control behavior by the abuser/perpetrator over the victim.

Things may seem fine and dandy at the beginning of the relationship but the power and controlling behaviors intensify as the relationship grows.

The key thing to note is a victim is NEVER to be blamed and the abuser is solely at fault for their choices to abuse another human being or an animal.

Domestic violence is real and needs to be seen as a public health issue.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233.

Take care of yourself!

 

 

 

Letting go of the ‘I’

One way to think about ego is as a protective heavy shell, such as the kind some animals have, like a big beetle. This protective shell works like armor to cut you off from other people and the outside world. What I mean by shell is a sense of separation: Here’s me and there’s the rest of the universe and other people. The ego likes to emphasize the “otherness” of others.

This sense of separation is an intrinsic part of the ego. The ego loves to strengthen itself by complaining—either in thoughts or words—about other people, the situation you find yourself in, something that is happening right now but “shouldn’t be,” and even about yourself. For example, when you’re in a long line at the supermarket, your mind might start complaining how slow the checkout person is, how he should be doing this or doing that, or he failed to do anything at all—including packing the bag of the person ahead of you correctly.

When this happens, the ego has you in its grip. You don’t have thoughts; the thoughts have you—and if you want to be free, you have to understand that the voice in your head has created them and irritation and upset you feel is the emotional response to that voice Only in this way can you be present to the truer world around you and see the golden shade in a pound of pears on the scanner, or the delight of a child in line who begs to eat them.The trick, of course, is to work to free ourselves from this armor and from this voice that is dictating reality.

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/eckhart-tolle-on-how-to-free-yourself-from-your-ego-armor#ixzz4DC0gM8Gn